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So this will be my first official blog post, even though I had shared this previously, but with a much smaller audience. And since this is the birth of a new project, I thought I’d share this first.

This post has been long overdue. From the day we found out we were pregnant, I thought to myself that it would be great to share this exciting journey. Unfortunately, it wasn’t that simple for the following reasons:

  1. My mum..the diva that she is, follows me on all my social media platforms and I wanted to obviously mention it to family first and close friends.
  2. Even though I was engaged to the love of my life, we had some issues which needed to be resolved. So as the case was, I was pretty much a ‘baby mama’ and I sure didn’t want to be tagged that.
  3. I had not broken the news to my dad. And as people never mind their business, I did not want a random person breaking the news to him first. I had to prevent a heart attack/him disowning me. Lol. FYI, I’m supposed to be the poster child.

So we had discussed having a baby considering the circumstances we found ourselves in. One part of me was really excited about it, the other part kept thinking ‘Chinenye, labor pain is real, are you sure about it? Don’t forget your pain threshold is literally non-existent. Are you sure you can push a baby out of this tiny body of yours?

And yet here I was with a little one growing inside of me. I made up my mind, watched videos, ohhhhh-eed, ahhhh-ed and awwww-eed over cute babies on the gram and tried to convince myself that I was capable of doing this. Others who have done it do not have ten heads right? Oh, and abortion never crossed my mind. It was not even an option.

So this was what really happened. So you see, as I said earlier, due to some circumstances, our wedding date kept changing and Mr. O and I had decided we had had enough. So we made the bold decision to make this happen. And so we planned this vacation. It was perfect timing. I made sure my three-period apps were fully functional, ensuring that I had logged in the prior month’s period dates accurately. Yup, I was definitely ready or so I thought.

*Disclaimer: I am not advising anyone to get pregnant out of wedlock. Trust me, this wasn’t the plan at all. My dream was the perfect one… meet the man of my dreams, fall in love, plan our wedding, wear a sexy wedding dress, get pregnant after, etc…you know the rest. So please, please, and please biko, don’t be a Chinenye.

Anyway, vacation came and ended. Two days before I was to head back to Nigeria, I purchased a pack of the First Response Home Pregnancy kit as apparently it was sensitive enough to detect HCG (Human chorionic gonadotropin) in your urine about 5 days before your expected period. This is a hormone produced after implantation has occurred. I had to wiki the full meaning of HCG. And so I peed on the stick and waited patiently according to instructions…That’s when the faint line appeared.

‘Babyyyyyy, ‘Jesus Christ’, ‘Oh Lord’…I screamed from the bathroom. Mr. O thought something was wrong and rushed to check on me. He saw the strip and smiled… but the doubting Thomas that I was, I was still not convinced. The line was really faint. Surely it had to be an error, a false positive as they call it.

First Response Pregnancy Test

Then we went to google and saw that a faint line was a sign of an early pregnancy. Ah, this baby girl was still not convinced. That evening we went to Walmart and I bought the Clearblue Digital Pregnancy Test with Smart Countdown…you know the type that outrightly says ‘Pregnant or Not Pregnant’. Yup, that’s what I got and so we were back to testing. Of course, this time I got a very bold ‘Pregnant’.

I’m sure a lot of you guys are probably thinking..why are you freaking out. Shebi that was what you wanted. Well, true o, it was..but that’s what you think until it sinks in. Prior to checking, Mr. O had gotten us a bottle of one of his favorite drinks and trust Mr. Baby soon as we found out, he’s like ‘ Yeah you can’t have any..I’m drinking for both of us. He was so calm while I was the complete opposite. My whole life flashed right before me.

At that point, I started freaking out. How was I going to break the news? We’re not even married yet, this would affect everything, so I was now a baby mama, what if Mr. O suddenly decided he wasn’t ready. Somewhere in my heart I still wasn’t convinced. I thought people tried so many times before getting pregnant. In my own case, this one time. In my friend’s words, I was over-fertile and in Mr. O’s words…his boys are quality and fast swimmers.

Anyway fast-forward to the end of my holiday..went back to Nigeria, decided to go do a blood test which obviously came back positive. I even bought other PT strips to reconfirm. That was how difficult it was to come to terms with the fact that I was actually pregnant. It was time to think about how to break the news to my folks!

Pregnancy Test Strips

And so my darlings, that was the start of my preggo journey!


  1. Lolo1

    December 23, 2019 at 10:53 pm

    I loved reading this! Where’s the rest of the story? How did you tell your family? Did you both eventually get married? Great blog

    1. Chinenye

      December 24, 2019 at 4:51 am

      Thanks, hun. We got married eventually. I will definitely do a second part to this story. Lol.

  2. Justine

    January 3, 2020 at 3:02 pm

    Loved this. I was so nervous about my first pregnancy too because I’m such a wimp when it comes to pain. I have no threshold. I scrap my knee and I literally pass out. ??‍♀️ It’s truly amazing what our bodies can do though in the end!

    1. Chinenye

      January 3, 2020 at 3:17 pm

      Haha, looks like we’re soul sisters. This is totally me.

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